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The Darkling Tag… 

Sorry for the lack of posts. I was very busy and it’s not the end !

 However, I think it could be funny to answer to the famous darkling tag, a list of questions for dark inclined people like an elder goth as me. 

So let’s begin

Simple Questions:

What is your favorite candle scent? None, i was so afraid by afire in my house that i don’t buy any cabdles ! 

Do you have a favorite book? I think i can consider the Lord Of The Rings as my favorite book even if i have a list long like an arm of fav books. 

Are you a tea or coffee person? No tea, no coffee because arythmias due to my heart defect and heart failure 

What is your favorite brand and color of lipstick? Nyx cosmetics and Kat Von D 

What is your favorite perfume/cologne? Avignon from Comme Des Garçons. The perfume of church insense. 


Do you have a celebrity crush? Yes, since my very young age and till now Harrison Ford. Probably my longest crush. But i have a lot of other crushes : Mads Mikkelsen, Misha Collins, Kurt Cobain, Helmut Berger, Yule Bryner, Gary Oldman……..

 

If you had to give up the color black, what color would you choose instead? Purple 

If you could change your name to a stereotypical 90s/2000s gothy name, what would it be? There were stereotypical gothy names ? I missed something when i was a baby bat 😂 

What are your top three tips for surviving hot weather while black clad? Light weight fabrics, many laces, don’t go out ! 

What song will always make you happy (doesn’t have to be a goth band)?  I need songs which inspire me, not make me happy. And a have a very long list of this kind of songs. 

Are you active in the arts (ex. Play an instrument, paint, write, etc)? 😂😂 holy shit yes, i’m a painter, it’s my “job” and before i was illustrator for rock music industry ( now almost retired)

If you had a teacup or mug made inscribed just for you, what would you have it say? I really don’t know, but i want one dalek shaped ! 


What is your number one non-gothy hobby? What is a gothy hobby except walking in cemeteries ?  

Thought Provokers:

If you could be a supernatural creature, what would it be and why? A vampire, because they could have a very long life, they are smarts and they are living dead so technically they never feel a heart beat, never. 

What horror monster-based super power would you have? Vampires powers
Do you feel confident or comfortable interacting with other Goths or gothy people (online or irl)? Why or why not? It depend of the people like ungoth people too. Sometimes you can interact very easily with someone and with other it could be more difficult. Goth, ungoth it’s the same. 

Which is more important for a look: Great hair or great makeup? Both, i try both. I’m not very skilled, i do my best. 

Is there something you wish there was more of in your subculture? More people ah ah ah… i feel alone. 

Care to share an embarrassing story related to your “darkliness“?  I’m not embarrassed with and never been. People around can but for me it’s just…natural. 

How are you at DIY? Not very skilled ! And i have not a lot of time to waste for learning. 

Quickly describe your ideal wedding ? No wedding, i hate wedding. So much people, money, embarrassment for just ONE day…. if i marry my man it will be just us, and a very tiny tiny bunch of people, 4/6 not more. The simplest possible. Love don’t need big things. Love is the big thing. 

My feelings about Elitism and labels in Goth Subculture

Since a while there are plenty of blogs, tweets, fb status, videos about elitism and / or labels in our subculture. I thinked about blogging about for a long time. Is it accurate to add my opinion to the long, long list of opinions already done. 

Finally i can’t resist to the call because i’ve red some wrong things, and i want answer to those points. 

 Many  baby bats are complaining about elitism. The fact it’s often they see in goth subculture only something superficial, fashionable, glamourous fueled by some brands and archetypes. Goth is just wearing black and wear spooky ( but sexy if possible ) things. The reality is a bit different. Yes, many goths love wearing clothes, nice jewelry and make up. It’s in our blood since the begining. But there are goth who really don’t care and they are more goth than many of baby bat i see on social medias. Why ? Because they know the roots of our subculture. It’s not something elitist to say that’s important to know where we come from. Look i’m artist, and during my studies i learned something important, and you can apply it to all domains even goth: you can’t erase the past, the roots, the history because those things make what you are and will be. Knowledge is the key in all domains for going forward. 

For our subculture, it’s important to be linked with music, because our subculture is really music rooted. We are born of music first, late 70s, kids of punk and from the music we build our whole culture adding literature, movies and art. And fashion of course but it’s an epiphenomenom. 

My feelings is, if you want to be really a part of goth subculture, work on and learn. You know as an elder goth i remember when i was a baby bat during the 90s. I see, being a goth bartender helped me, many people in goth parties. Often the more into goth fashion police and bad thongues with others are those who weren’t the less in the subculture. We are not a lot, now, truly goth ( i don’t talk about fashion of course but state of mind ), with social medias i follow time to time some people i met during the 90s and frankly, often i was surprised by what they like, share or talk about. Are they really the 90s uber goth i met ? Yes, often it was just a phase, that’s true. 


Now let’s talk about labels in our subculture. I must admit i’m really fed up by labels because i think if we have the same roots why we need labels ? I hate put people in boxes and i think we’re all the result of mixing influences which emerged with goth subculture. We are just focusing on some different influences according to our personality, education and personnal tates including ungoth ones. 

I don’t care if you are victorian, mopey, pastel or wathever you want. The important thing is if we can discuss gently, not targeting others, just have fun with links builded by being in a same subculture. 

I have this feeling labels become so important. When i was young there were only two labels ” cool people ” and ” douchebags” . There was really enough. 

When the rainbow meets the darkness: LGBTQ and Goth relationship 

I’m involved in LGBTQ rights activism since mid 90s, in the same time i became involved in goth subculture too. 
First I became an activist after met some wonderful friends in University. We were very close. The second thing is that many people think i’m trans. I’m not, i’m a cis girl. The fact that people think i’m trans is not a problem for me but i discovered the violence against trans people. And this violence is often through words but could easily become a physical violence. 
As a cis girl I know really this bad side but my transgender friends are facing so much more:  administration, doctors and too much often alone, without family support. 
Family support is hard to have too when you’re queer, gay or lesbian too. It’s a shame, for me, that your own family let you alone because you are not what they want. A kid, a brother, a sister, a father, a mother are not just object you fulfill with your wishes, the more important is their wishes and how they need to live for being happy. 


However, back to the relationship between LGBTQ community and Goth community. after my own experience goth seems more inclusive. Perhaps our interests, our culture and our proper experience of being different help us to understand more minorities. 
I had friends who found with Goth places where they can be theyself. One can live free her desire to be male to female. She was just at the beginning of her transition and at goth parties she can wore dresses she love. I remember she came as a normal boy and change her clothes, make up and attire in the bathroom of the place we’ve done parties. With time she became more confident with the support of the community and finally came to parties as the girl she is. That’s an awesome example of support in our community. 

Caligo Bastet, Openly gay goth youtuber, link in the bottom of the post.

Same for gay ou lesbian couples. Some were build through parties of course but you have also secret couples. You know when you come for the first time i’m a place, you don’t know how will be the reactions. Often, slowly couples became more and more free because we were supportive and don’t care who you love or who you are deeply. 
But, there’s always a but, in goth scene you also have douchebags. Especially into industrial music ( yes i know, indus is not goth, but frankly seriously related to ). I’m agree, with industrial you have a part of far right ideas which stink a lot. I’ve heard, but it’s not fact checked, that some bands like Combichrist or VNV nation has some homophobic shit behind them. 
If you read this, especially baby bats, and you’re straight stay supportive and inclusive. You know too what is judgmental attitude, so be kind, don’t mess with people nature when this one will never hurt you. If you have, perhaps because of your education or whatever, some reluctance, try too push your limits. If not, you will perhaps loose a good friendship. Just open your mind. Rainbow could meet the darkness in a beautiful way ! 

Some links to go far: 

Caligo Bastet channel ( But youtube is now restricting LGBTQ  content !!!!!! So please if you have time to leave them a message on twitter, on their platform or any other social medias, please, do it ! It’s not the time to shut LGBTQ community up! Support LGBTQ youtubers  ) 

Young Queers Find comfort in the darkness 

Queer and Goth

LGBT GOTHS: What your scene ?

 

 

OUTFIT OF THE DAY: sunday between work and cinema ( and slice of controversy ) 

My sunday was divided between work and going to cinema for watching Logan. I’m not usually into comics but i follow the X-Men licensed movies since the beginning. Of course like a lot of people, my favorite character is Logan / Wolverine ( but also Nightcrawler and Magneto ) 

I loved the movie and i think it becomes my favorite of all the licence. The character of Logan is really well written, with deep and sensibility. I also discovered Dafne Keen who is really amazing in her role of young savage mutant. She reminds me a character from another universe i love Orphan Black, the character of Helena even she is older. 

However let’s talk rag. 


It’s a comfy sunday, first because i’m waiting total healing of a big snake tattooed ( i will talk about my tattoos soon in few different posts ) on my right leg on friday and in second hand because i need to work in my art studio before go to cinema. 

T-shirt : She Past Away merchandise 

Velvet jacket: Thrifted 

Skinny grey jeans: thrifted 

Winklepickers : Goth Pikes 


Sopor Aeternus brooch by My Queendom For….

Chain mail necklace from ebay altered by me with religious medals 

Choker probably from ebay, i don’t remember 

Ankh earrings : Killstar 

Earring cuff: Shop Dixi 


goth finger

It’s late, my humor is fucking bad at this hour. 

CONTROVERSY parenthesis : This week i will post the second part of ” Vampire movies Goth should watch “. I had a weird discussion about my first part on a elder goth FB group. Someone said to me she don’t want read because i used “should” in the title. Well, okay it’s your opinion and i don’t care i said. But she came back, explain to me that she think goth is an non judgemental subculture ( by the way not sure ) and she’s worry when people give things you should do…. 

If i use this title it’s not for giving an order or a manual about being a good goth. First because the list is not only for goth, but for those who like vampires movies, second because it’s just a fucking title which sounds nice to my ears, and not for the first degree, third, it’s just suggestions if you are searching a movie to watch during a lazy day or because you’ve binge drinked netflix and have no idea to watch now. 

I do this blog for pleasure, for not only talk about my job because i’m like my own community manager and sometimes i need to talk about other stuff i like. It’s for fun, sometimes i will post more serious things of course, but it will never be a manual for being goth. You can read it even if you are not in the subculture but you have common interest, or whatever you are, i don’t care. I just hope you.ll find sometimes interesting infos or you just have a good time like me when i read other blogs i appreciate. And not especially goth too. 

So please can we just forget for once controversies, i think there are plenty of more important topics on which you can have controversies than … a list about vampire movies !!!! 

What do you think ?