I’m involved in LGBTQ rights activism since mid 90s, in the same time i became involved in goth subculture too.
First I became an activist after met some wonderful friends in University. We were very close. The second thing is that many people think i’m trans. I’m not, i’m a cis girl. The fact that people think i’m trans is not a problem for me but i discovered the violence against trans people. And this violence is often through words but could easily become a physical violence.
As a cis girl I know really this bad side but my transgender friends are facing so much more: administration, doctors and too much often alone, without family support.
Family support is hard to have too when you’re queer, gay or lesbian too. It’s a shame, for me, that your own family let you alone because you are not what they want. A kid, a brother, a sister, a father, a mother are not just object you fulfill with your wishes, the more important is their wishes and how they need to live for being happy.
Same for gay ou lesbian couples. Some were build through parties of course but you have also secret couples. You know when you come for the first time i’m a place, you don’t know how will be the reactions. Often, slowly couples became more and more free because we were supportive and don’t care who you love or who you are deeply.
However, back to the relationship between LGBTQ community and Goth community. after my own experience goth seems more inclusive. Perhaps our interests, our culture and our proper experience of being different help us to understand more minorities.
I had friends who found with Goth places where they can be theyself. One can live free her desire to be male to female. She was just at the beginning of her transition and at goth parties she can wore dresses she love. I remember she came as a normal boy and change her clothes, make up and attire in the bathroom of the place we’ve done parties. With time she became more confident with the support of the community and finally came to parties as the girl she is. That’s an awesome example of support in our community.
But, there’s always a but, in goth scene you also have douchebags. Especially into industrial music ( yes i know, indus is not goth, but frankly seriously related to ). I’m agree, with industrial you have a part of far right ideas which stink a lot. I’ve heard, but it’s not fact checked, that some bands like Combichrist or VNV nation has some homophobic shit behind them.
If you read this, especially baby bats, and you’re straight stay supportive and inclusive. You know too what is judgmental attitude, so be kind, don’t mess with people nature when this one will never hurt you. If you have, perhaps because of your education or whatever, some reluctance, try too push your limits. If not, you will perhaps loose a good friendship. Just open your mind. Rainbow could meet the darkness in a beautiful way !
Some links to go far:
Caligo Bastet channel ( But youtube is now restricting LGBTQ content !!!!!! So please if you have time to leave them a message on twitter, on their platform or any other social medias, please, do it ! It’s not the time to shut LGBTQ community up! Support LGBTQ youtubers )